The 90/10 Principle

I believe you know or heard of the 80-20 rule or Pareto's Principle. It states that a small number of causes (20%) is responsible for a large percentage (80%) of the effect, for example, 20% of the customers generate 80% of the sales, or that 80% of merchandise comes from 20% of the vendors.

Have you read this before?

The 90/10 Principle

Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be later arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How?

By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?

Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged....

rock the bowl

went bank in my cheques today after keeping em for 3 weeks..yay!  see heres the case when u got money...I strolled to Guess unintentionally...and spent it all!! (wasnt much anyway..) but still :(

bought pair of pants for myself n saw this damn nice capri, on sales somemore!!! but....tada my size o__o, Angie's birthday coming up, so i got size 24 and left a note in the birthday card :不知道 ngam size 吗？如果不 ngam 的话就。。。减肥！！(（dunno if its the right size, if not.....lose some weight!!)

hahaha she ll be damn pissed of if it really doesnt fit her...shipping costed an hour of my pay!! *grumblezz*


Jim got us two tickets to the Armchair Cynics concert tonite - rock band based in canada. half an hour b4 closing the store, we made a point to push one more sales (and it has to be more than $100), then we'll treat ourselves a nice dinner....and i scored!! haha

So we went to garlic rose by inner harbour, ordered a "fish bowl" of strawberry magarita, i was too thirsty!! n hoping for some happy effect at the concert later *grin*


see!  literally a fish bowl!!

garlic rose pasta, salad was soooo goood!!

Fish n chips darling had looked so fucking delicious, actually i took more pics but for some reason, certain photos couldnt be uploaded, dunno wats wrong with photobucket...

anyway....

the concert rock~!!

apple tree in our mini garden, supposed to grow 5 kinda apples..which is the main factor of the "war" between darling n the caterpillars this spring, errr...actually kinda like ambush..hehe

阿當的抉擇

Written / Arranged By: Davy Chan
Lyrics By: 李俊一
Rap By: 吳彥祖
Guitar By: Yin
All Programmed By: Davy Chan
Backing Vocals By: Pat Lui / alive

A1 當天很僥倖
叫我贏到芳心
跟妳牽手亦興奮

A2 相戀一千曰
你己懷緬單身
每個路人亦吸引

B 某夜我夢見禁果
誘惑到沒法抵抗
不准你偷一個 (應該去偷一個)
顧及背後那個她
你便要重頭想想

C 專一的祖先阿當
哪會去抱擁別個
一生只得一愛侶
愛慕也未變淡泊
或是沒夏娃太多
因此專注愛一個 (犧牲我的小我)
但願男人永不出錯
(但是男人太多出錯)

A3 想得到好運
要對伴侶忠心
今天起甩掉心癮

A4 假使一安份
你會沒法抽身
像陷在泥沼的人

repeat B with ()’s

repeat C with ()’s 1

Rap: Back in the day of human creation
Little Miss Eve made a tasty temptation
Adam took a bite with a little hesitation
And so goes the story of human procreation
Who’s to say that my thoughts are so dirty
When I see a lady that’s oh so purdy!
What is a man without a little bit of evil
Oh my God can I be cured?

repeat C with ()’s 2

to listen to the song , go to
http://www.alivenotdead.com/contents/01AliveTrack01.mp3

human experiment

was great to know that my bro is having a treat - vacation in Ipoh and Penang, for being the first place in class...See heres the deal that the adults made out of him. WHERE would he do better in school, at my mom's or dad's... after all, they r good at "pointing fingers" , apparently the reason of  he did poorly in school was becoz of too much fun during the weekend - at my mom's...

he's being accused, helplessly by those so called "elderly"-grandma,aunt,cousins and even my dad, for lying....for being rebellious by doing badly in school ON PURPOSE...

theres only so much a kid can take, he snapped at my dad one day after his "weekends" being blamed again for driving school work down stream :  "I THINK I can do better in school if i stay with mommy!" , dad replied: " Fine! u can now stay with mommy, see how well u'd do!", the very next day, his clothes were dropped of infront of my house.. 6 months trial, to see improvement...

with the help from both of my sisters, he showed improvement, He was so proud of himself when we talked on the phone, Im proud of him too! went to toy'r'us yesterday , picked up a spiderman study kit and a frisbee to reward him...although it make take too long to ship back, but he definately deserved them...I wish I could send a dingy back if shipping didnt cost so much...he would ve loved it! will definately bring one with me the next time i go back...

the best part is, when his grandma heard bout the good news, she didnt believe a word, Im really curious how will a kid turn out being brought up by these -- ppls!! Im feeling really sorry for my bro, for having to put up with all these bullshits....oh god, pls hv some mercy...

how I love summer : camped at sooke potholes

camping was so fun! and finally i managed to slept all nite in the tent without running into the car middle of nite. besides, one nite was never enough, but we were all worn out, and i lost balance after swim, fell onto a plant full with thorns, scratches all over arm and my palm wouldnt stop bleeding :(

On n all, it was one of the best trip, best camp ground of the site we were told, so it was worth tat hour wait....it was by the river, woke up to the sound of river flow...jump in for swim anytime...wanted to go cliff diving, but too crowded.

while waiting for the last tenants to pack up, frisbee is good to kill time...




got the tents setted up in 20mins




why wait? blow up the dingies n go flow in the river...




brrr~ the water was really cold,but just keep swimming..




everybody went on dingies...




everybody swam, everybody was wet..




nothing like niagra fall but great look out point




fly kite...




dinner time!!(no we didnt skip lunch, dumplings, noodle cups n hotdogs for lunch) since theres open fire ban, all the chicken wings we brought were going to be boil intead of bbq, NO WAY! with the bbq fragrance from our neighbour, we refuse to end our nite with boiled chicken wings, so.....


we borrowed this stove frm neighbour,hehehhe and i took a long walk around the neighbourhood to buy some left over charcoals frm other tenants...all becoz!!! whats camping without bbq? so we managed...




the gas stove helped to speed up cooking time




flip flip flip~ i cant believe we finished all the food we brought...




some jagung for dessert...




yum!







no campfire at nite, candles n guitar werent bad at all..




i hope this is not the last camping trip for the summer, I will try to make another "surf camp" up tofino although the previous experience sucked due to the lousy weather...By the way, great discovery!!go to the link...

http://hompy.netvigator.com/main/page/clot

underground academic

been busy whole morning, besides work, finishing up thermo final was my main task of the day...and i did, guess the next step is to pay the fee...

Will had a "tutorial session" for the final , only me n shamek showed up, it was very helpful indeed, got most of the parts figured out esp question two.

Matter of fact is, I havent been completely honest with this final exam , collaborating with Will is one thing. But what I meant was, having notes n example from last year was the main the connection.

Its obvious that the test was formed from pieces of questions frm last year, or year b4...or even year b4...who knows how long these questions had existed...but what really puzzles me was : who is actually completely honest with this test? Well maybe I could be quite sure that no one is.....even though some of them might "look" like they r...guess is the matter of level of "dihonesty". say level 1=extremely dishonest; and 5= barely ,I will stand around 3. What about the rest? where do they stand?

I seriously dont feel good now even though this is over, infact im feeling aweful. After all, all I can say is correspondant study, self learning course is such a bad idea esp to technical course like tat, or at least to lazy ppl like me. I wouldnt want to do it again....

what the heck! im going camping tomorrow!!

tick tock!

I didnt know our take home final exam is due on the 22nd,which is next MONDAY! Will agreed to hv a meeting with us whos in town this sat to go through it , thank god! ohh yeaaaa u hv to be thankful after 7 hours of working on ONE question n still havent got it done...

argh!

anyway met up with the appraiser yesterday and final figure for the house is....still slightly more ex than we expected, but alot better than the first proposal... now that we ve moved steps ahead, the next essential one is " A WEDDING! " , I ve always dream of a nice romantic wedding, perhaps i will need help - wedding planner.
no no no no, not now, but years from now....

got msg from Murphy last nite asking if im going to work today, well after so many times of trying to quit on THIS ONE! I finally did, thanks to herself for snapping at me.

Had a gooooooooood breakfast, bacon&cheese omelette sandwich...after MONTHS! darling finally making breakfast again. Uncle Steve dropped by , he's taking off later to MALAYSIA~ ohhh lucky him, I gotto work harder and hopefully one day ill be able to take vacation whenever I like without hv to worry bout $$.

Today is Mom in law's birthday...Shout out to her: HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM!

Lastly, my deepest condolence to Jeff's dad who passed away two days ago...sigh....come to think about it.....

another bbq nite : no pics taken though :P

sigh....i remembered two hours b4 the bbq started, i reminded myself to bring the camera out, but ended up forgotten bout it the entire nite.... anyway Butzu n shouri showed up n they introduced us the japanese style bbq GARLIC N ONION!!! pretty good actually esp the garlic :)

Nate showed up later, then Jenn..... and prezemek showed up looking like he just dealed with those thermo questions again.....then Finally Jim, Jazzie n Keith came, Keith bought a $600 guiter , an absolute beauty!

soooo throughout the nite, as usual..we ate, we drank, we played guitar n dance a lil....

here come the best part: Butzu washed all my dishes!!!! sooo nice of him!! never had any of my guests done tat b4.... I should invite him to dinner more often,hehe

Keith n gang took off to open mic nite, we were going to go too if Keith were to sing..but not! So 4 of us had a movie nite: the grudge. not as good as Ju On, but still scared the shit out of us... It was like a pyjamas party coz Butzu n Shouri had a sleep over after some snacks n whiskey.

lulu fever in town

Every now n then ,we~ women deserve some nice treats, I admit , i ve been having mine way too often lately. here it is - a "baby phat" bling bling necklace, and finally!! i invested in a pair of lululemon's Mo-Ped pant. I could bet almost all the women in this town own pair of pants from lululemon,which made me long for one too, but been against all this while coz too pricey.... 

one nite, i was given choice of treats between a movie, or a crab.

Hmmmmm....it was a tough one, and obviously heres wat i chosen, ta da! first crab i ever cooked, kam heong cross mumi. yummm!(called mom for instructions though)

had everyone over for dinner last nite, uncle steve brought chocolate cake for dessert...It was sooooo goooood~ To my surprise, uncle steve is taking off to Msia (again!) this friday ,to attend a wedding...I asked if its possible to tah pau asam laksa back...I been craving for it for weeks!!! mmmmm I WANT ASAM LAKSA!!

the half breakfast bagel that i saved....for now! best one i ever had...

i love you..

sisterhood of the traveling pants

Was supposed to work on my correspondent take home final, even though Will said we could take our time but I wouldn�t wanna risk it.

Just watched the "sisterhood of the traveling pants"for the second time, first time was in the theatre, it was so good that I decided to download it so I could watch it over n over again.

This story is about how a pair of jeans amazingly fits all Lena, Tibby , Carmen n bridget perfectly despite on their size differences. They decided to share it during the summer n called it the magic pants. In this unique way, the four experience the challenges and surprises of life in a summer they'll never forget.

 

TWO THUMBS UP!!

 

Lena, Tibby, Carmen, Bridget

Lena is a soft spoken n conservative girl ,who hide herself behind the image of everyone sees her since young - the image of appropriateness. During her stay with his grandparent in Greece, the magic pants brought her to this guy who made her open up , not afraid to be herself.

Tibby appeared to be this tough girl who doesnt care much , but deep down inside, shes just afraid of feeling too much. The pants brought Bailey to her (who suffer from leukeamia). The moment b4 Bailey died, Tibby put the pants besides her hoping that the magic will work on her,Bailey said to her : "they already did, they brought me to you.. ", tat was crying scene no.1, there were 3, even the second time I watch it..hehe


Bridget is this tall gorgeous blonde who spent her summer in a soccer camp in Mexico.Her mom died years ago, and she s been trying to keep herself happy n alive ever since, becoz she believes if she feels alive, it doesnt seem like she s dead. But whenever shes upset, missing her mom hurts her too much.


I could connect myself to Carmen the most(despite on our sizes n loud nature), the fact that she wouldnt stand up to her dad who she hasntseen much since he divorced her mother years ago, jealousy occurred seeing her dad as a happy family with his fiance n her two teen children, made her wonder what she has done wrong tat he left them. After such a long time, I found this anger inside against my father, I think the misunderstand between Karen n mom triggered it. Will I express myself to him like how Carmen did to her dad? I dunno, if it happens, it happens, is not like it meant anything to him anyway..A lot of times, im always curious about the feeling of growing up having loved from a father..even now so...

Haze conditions in homeland :(

Malaysia yesterday declared a state of emergency in Port Klang and Kuala Selangor as PSI readings shot past 500 and urged mosques to hold special prayers for rain as a pall of haze from Indonesian forest fires sent pollution levels shooting into the hazardous zone.

More than 300 fires burning in the forests of Sumatra - which is separated from Malaysia by the narrow Malacca Strait - have stoked the choking, acrid haze, which causes eyes to redden and leaves throats raspy

Under emergency rules, Port Klang, which has the country's biggest and busiest shipping harbor, will be shut down. All educational institutions and government and private workplaces will also be closed, including factories, construction sites and quarries.

However, supermarkets, shops selling food and drinks, pharmacies and essential services will remain open. Road work will be suspended and the use of personal motor vehicles will be discouraged.

 

I dont think it has ever been that bad, goshe i hv problem breathing just looking at those pics. But its really interesting  to know that mosques were urged to hold special prayers to call rain...ha!  is tat the least they could do? what bout human made rain?

I cant help but to think about the health conditions of public, esp my family, my bro n step dad are both asthma sufferes. PPL PLS!! WEAR MASKS! i know it looked hideous , but it helps filterning those filthy air!

 

weekend in vancouver

day1: reached vancouver bout 430, how(andrei's fren) pick us up frm the ferry terminal, without wasting anymore time, we headed to robson st , shooooooooping, hahaha, bout a yellow top and "baby phat" bling bling necklace...later of the evening, we strolled down to english bay for the "main reason to vancouver" - firework grand finale!! It lasted 30 mins n was one of the best i ever seen, that it worth tat 2 hours traffic jam

firework competition in englishbay, sweden was the winner.

b4 the show, there was a lil opening act

the crowd

how cool is tat huh? classic radio in the box on the bike with lights

day 2: hows mom brought us out for the best dim sum i ever tasted, then a lil richmond shopping malls tour, when hows back from work, we went to metrotown, bought another top, then met up with su ann n parent for richmond night market!!!ohhhhhh i was out of my mind with all those food tat i ve never tasted but seen on one of those hk drama series or travelling programs :curry fishballs, giant scallop, sichuan noodles (very very weird, something made my mouth went numb for a good 3 mins),but the takoyaki were nothing like those in narita.
Bought a polo T for darling n "magic bra" for myself- absolutely strapless !

day 3: reached robson (again) abt 10am, went walking around the street while andrei met up with his aunt, met up with poyang for lunch, then more shopping , bought a nice shirt for darling, then later on, met up andrei n aunt, then su ann n parent, walk around somemore....then 5 of us headed to stanley park...

see the yellow hill? those r all sulfur!!!

 

they all rushed to me when i squeeze my chips bag n i was terrified!! (if u ve seen harold n kumar)

awww look at those puppy eyes, when it long for food

I ve never seen such a big cruise ship so close up.

hollow tree, n its still living...

day4: had big breakfast b4 we head to the beach, played frisbee for an hour b4 andrei n how showed up, then how bought us lunch b4 we headed to the ferry terminal

big ass breakfast for 2.99$

Jericho beach

 

how n his family were incredibly nice!! n Andrei s aunt is not as bad as he described, I was once told to be living in this country, u hv to bear with "ppls come n go" for instance, meeting how n his family was my very pleasure, and i could ve learned alot more frm poyang if i met him earlier, i still could though,with the good ol messenger, last summer, we see diff ppls, chikako, yong, chandler, now there all gone besides yong came back for exchange progam,come to think about it,chandler should be back anytime now. Im putting more effort into making girl frens. At the same time im choosy in the sense tat it will be a big turn off if she tells me that shes an international student, knowing the fact tat she ll be gone someday, cant bear with another of those.

Anyway... while strolling on robson, i walked by the money changer n saw MYR is on chart!!! finally! ringgit worth something elsewhere which was really nice to know...

results out! all my hardwork paid off ... :)

ventures in our place

I said i was going to post more pics, b4 those that i mentioned, lets look tat the recent ones: HotPlate last thurs, "After Party" Fri nite

Hot Plate nite on thurs

sizzling.........

waiting n waiting, starving n starving

Daniel, Jim (James dad), Darryl, Poyang, Keith

After dinner jammin session in the garage

after dinner n boosts.......

 

Isnt it weird to get the fire place going in Aug???

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Friday nite (or sat morning) after partying in jungle room...hadnt been for looooooooong time.... 

everyone is....................happy!

Andrei s last nite: HAMMERED!!

keith!!! breakfast time!!!

 

gave nate ride to thetis lake, had breakfast close by n found out tht there will be a grand finale for firework competition in vancouver tonite...so instead of sending andrei n poyang to the ferry terminal...i took the trip too!!

more firework n van pics coming up....